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Daily Leadership Thought #120 – Be Wary Of Trying To Fix People


Be wary of trying to fix people.  If in fact they are broken, they will need to fix themselves.  It is often easy to get “sucked into the vortex” of someone else’s problems especially if you care about them.  However, the most important thing a good friend can do is simply listen and only offer advice when it is requested and then do it carefully and sparingly.   Do not try not to play amateur psychologist because more often than not you will be ill prepared for what you uncover and the burden may shift to you.

We have to deal with the entirety of who we are as individuals.  We all have areas in our life and aspects of personality that hold us back.  At times it feels like a major part of the journey in life is to figure out what these personal liabilities are and which lessons we need to learn.   Sadly, it is an adverse event that often triggers the need for personal learning and growth.  As they say, sometimes people have to hit “rock bottom” and truly experience the adverse consequences of their actions before they will take affirmative action.  Hopefully, the collateral damage for those surrounding them will not be too great.

Every individual has the capacity for self-awareness and self-sufficiency.  Friends and colleagues can act like a mirror reflecting back what they see but each of us have to take ownership of our own personal problems and take responsibility for the solutions.  The best we can do for others is to be honest, caring, establish healthy boundaries and when necessary encourage them to seek professional help.

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