Most people spend way too much time succumbing to their fears. They consistently talk themselves out of things because of a fixation with the worst possible outcome. And, in almost all circumstances, the worst possible outcome never happens or isn’t even a remote possibility. Worrying about something that more than likely won’t happen, chips away at your self confidence and is a waste of emotional, mental and physical energy. It also leads to regret and regret long term becomes despair and ultimately bitterness. In fact, addressing a fear head on regularly has the opposite effect. It only emboldens you – makes you feel better about yourself.
Last summer I participated in a wellness program and one of the first activities was riding a zip line. It was a pretty decent descent and you could tell some of the participants were a bit frightened. Several of them opted out of the activity altogether. However, many of them went forward anyway despite their fears. You could see the trepidation on their faces as they lined up to take their turn. I happened to be the second person to go and helped out catching folks on the other end. It was a great experience. I had a front row seat to the raw emotion and facial expressions of people as they finished their ride (and everything turned out okay). In some cases the feeling was exuberance. In others it was relief. In all there was a genuine sense of accomplishment.
I look at this zip line experience as a metaphor for life. There will be instances in any person’s life where they will run smack into their fears. It could be in either significant or insignificant matters, but in all cases the fear will be real to the person experiencing it. Overcoming fear takes courage and being courageous always build character. You add a dimension to your character because you show yourself that you’re capable of things you didn’t think possible. And, stretching the boundaries of what you deem as possible is only ever a good thing.
The people with real fear at the beginning of this zip line experience seemed to carry themselves differently at the end. They stood a bit taller, had more of a bounce in their step, and exhibited visible relief about making it through relatively unscathed. It was fun to watch. Many challenging things will happen to you in your life. Very few will be life threatening. There will also be ample opportunities to exhibit courage and it will be needed. Don’t let fear or unnecessary worry hinder your opportunities for personal growth and happiness. Life is too short…
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