There are many things in life beyond our realm of control, but you get to decide how you behave. You can take the high road or low road. You follow the belief that two wrongs don’t make a right or you can escalate the pattern of bad behavior. You can allow people to continually stretch your moral/ethical boundaries or you can stick to them. You can play the victim or move on. You can act before your think or think before you act. I listened to a speaker utter the phrase many years ago that, “we are what we tolerate” and it resonated with me right away. We are also what we continually do and who we do it with.
Human beings are imperfect. We make mistakes. However, not all flawed behavior is equal. When confronted with stressful or less than ideal circumstances, the two questions we should regularly ask ourselves are: why are we doing what we are doing and what are the implications of our actions. You learn alot about yourself when you ask “why” questions. If your motivations aren’t constructive you need to step back and reflect more carefully on what you are doing. In addition, no one lives is a vacuum and our actions do affect other people. I’ve seen many innocent victims of bad behavior and more often than not, you hurt yourself more than the person you are trying to get even with. My mother used to often say “don’t cut off your nose to spite your face” and she was right.
I often tell my kids I wish I could protect them from all the bad things that happen in life, but I can’t. It isn’t possible or healthy to try and live your life in a bubble. Things can get complicated, messy and hard but believe in yourself and your ability to effectively navigate whatever obstacles are strewn in your path. Embrace your inner moral compass. We are the heroes of our own life and can choose to be resilient and act heroically or not. As the saying goes, character is forged in the fires of adversity. All of us have great capacity to do what’s right or what’s wrong. You get to decide how you will behave….I encourage you to do your best to make the RIGHT choices. Every day is a new opportunity to grow and get better as a human being.
- Quote: How To Make The Wrong Decision (monicaricci.net)
- See Your Imperfect Self As Precious (psychologytoday.com)
- To condone, or not to condone: that is the question. (redheadcarol.com)
- Has America Totally Lost the Instinct to “Be Nice”? (woodgatesview.com)