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Leadership Thought #384 – How Strong Are Your Relationships?


If we are honest with ourselves, most of our relationships in life are out of convenience or due to necessity.  Typically these types of friendships are fine as long as things stay relatively stable and major life issues don’t complicate the mix.  However, once something bad happens, you do learn who your true friends are and it may surprise you.  Friendship is easy when life is easy.  When life gets hard, some people just don’t have the stomach for it.   Always remember that this says more about them than you.  Some people are just much more comfortable taking rather than giving – sad for them.  Others just can’t handle any level of emotional depth or commitment.

A true friendship should incorporate all aspects of life not just the good stuff.   There will be moments when you feel overwhelmed and need to ask for help and that should be okay.  We all need people close to us that will make helping us get through what we are going through a priority in their own life.  They will have to be okay seeing the less attractive side of our personality and allowing us to be fully human.   They should be willing to help us create a realtionship space where it is safe to be honest about what we are experiencing.  When we get off track they should gently nudge us in the right direction and walk with us and even hold our hand if necessary.   They should never enable immoral, unethical or destructive behavior.  We should also be willing to do the same for them if and when needed.  All great relationships are a two-way street.

I am fortunate to be blessed with many caring and supportive people in my life.  Some I hold close, others I know are there if and when needed.  I hope and pray they expect and can rely on the same from me.  We are all on this ride called life together and it helps to know you don’t have to go it alone especially when the ride gets dark and bumpy.   It’s okay to need support, empathy, understanding, compassion and even some tough love as long as you give it in return.   People will either lift you up or bring you down or do nothing for you whatsoever.  You will always learn the most about the strength of a given relationship when you actually need it the most.   

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