I’ve met many talented people through the years who struggle with self-confidence and low self-esteem. I don’t know if it is how they were raised by their parents or other environmental factors in their lives growing up, but it is often surprising to see and also a bit sad. Unfortunately, leadership roles aren’t always assumed by the most capable or well intentioned people. I’ve seen the flip side of this issue where people with too much self-confidence put themselves in positions they have no business being in. The leadership void will get filled one way or another.
Obviously a leader needs to be competent. It goes without saying that he/she should know what they are talking about and have the experience to make well informed and wise decisions. When you are in over your head everyone close to the situation can usually see it. You can only fake competence for so long without it catching up with you. The good news is that competence can be learned with commensurate effort and supplemented by the skills/abilities of other people (as long as your ego doesn’t get in the way).
Belief in yourself is a much trickier issue. When you have low self-confidence it often hinders your ability to communicate effectively, manage conflict, take risks, motivate others and trust your own judgment. You have to be able to do all of these things if you want to lead people and run an organization. Moreover, individuals who don’t believe in themselves tend to settle for second best in their own lives feeling like they deserve what they get rather than going after what they want. If they are not careful, they will also let the wrong people into their lives who will prey on these vulnerabilities both personally and professionally.
If you are struggling with low levels of self-belief and self-confidence, I highly encourage you to see out professional guidance to help you fully understand why and work on it. I also encourage you to focus on things you can more easily control in your life like saving a little more money, practicing better work habits, watching what you eat, exercising more and improving how your dress and present yourself. If you feel healthier and better about yourself, it will be easier to work through the deeper issues hindering your growth and development. I also strongly advise you to step back and reflect on your closest relationships and whether or not they are good for you and where you want to go in life. The goal should be for you to operate from a place that empowers rather than disempowers you.
If you truly want success and happiness in your life, you need to first believe in yourself and that you are capable of taking the steps necessary to make this happen and deserving of it when it does.
- 8 reasons why you should have high self-esteem (angelashella.net)
- How to Boost Your Self-Esteem (everydayhealth.com)
- Instant Confidence (slideshare.net)
- Secret Power to raise the Greatness out of Children, Self-Esteem (kidsgroundnet.wordpress.com)
- How to Battle Low Self-Esteem (everydayhealth.com)
- 9 Confidence Building Techniques That Will Help You Ace Anything! (hlomies.wordpress.com)
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